This is not an easy question to answer. There is more than one way to look at any situation. One man's garbage is another man's treasure.
If you look at the situations in your life with an attitude of why did this happen to me? Then you may feel cursed to have had such luck. But, another person may look at the same situation as a blessing because of the lessons they learned and the strong person they became because of them.
In either case, the situations have happened or they continue to happen. If they are in the past, there is nothing that can change them. They are a part of you whether you choose to admit it or not. If they continue to exist then you must deal with them. You have no choice.
Or, do you?
You do have a choice in how you perceive your situations. So, whether you are blessed or cursed is not a condition, it's a choice.
It is a choice that you make either consciously or unconsciously. It is a choice made about how you feel about the situations in your life. It is a choice you make about the conditions you have experienced.
If you choose the "why me" approach. You probably feel cursed. You take on the victim's attitude.
If you choose the "why not me" approach. You probably feel blessed. You take on the warrior's attitude when facing a challenge.
Interestingly enough, there are people in situations that one may consider great but the people in them feel cursed. There are many examples of people that appear to "have it all" and yet they are miserable, unhappy and feel burdened by their lives. And, there are others that have very little yet are some of the happiest people you'd ever meet.
Whether you are blessed or cursed is not a condition, it is a decision. It is what you decide to make of it.
If you experience a series of setbacks, you can decide to put your nose to the grindstone and push your way through the setbacks. This will make you a stronger person.
If you experience a series of setbacks, you can decide to quit and give up on your goal. This will make you a weaker person.
Whether you are blessed or cursed is an attitude. It is how you face the challenges in your life. It is how you decide to deal with your personal situations. It is a choice of letting life happen to you or letting life happen for you.
The power of the choice, the decision and the attitude are yours. What will you do?
Keep this in mind, there is a high correlation between people who think they are blessed and people who approach life with a "cup half full" attitude. It makes a difference.
And, it is not just positive thinking although that certainly never hurts.
Remember what Zig Ziglar taught, "Positive thinking won't help you do anything in life. But, it will help you do everything better than negative thinking will."
Are you blessed or are you cursed?
Or, do you?
You do have a choice in how you perceive your situations. So, whether you are blessed or cursed is not a condition, it's a choice.
It is a choice that you make either consciously or unconsciously. It is a choice made about how you feel about the situations in your life. It is a choice you make about the conditions you have experienced.
If you choose the "why not me" approach. You probably feel blessed. You take on the warrior's attitude when facing a challenge.
Interestingly enough, there are people in situations that one may consider great but the people in them feel cursed. There are many examples of people that appear to "have it all" and yet they are miserable, unhappy and feel burdened by their lives. And, there are others that have very little yet are some of the happiest people you'd ever meet.
Whether you are blessed or cursed is not a condition, it is a decision. It is what you decide to make of it.
If you experience a series of setbacks, you can decide to put your nose to the grindstone and push your way through the setbacks. This will make you a stronger person.
If you experience a series of setbacks, you can decide to quit and give up on your goal. This will make you a weaker person.
Whether you are blessed or cursed is an attitude. It is how you face the challenges in your life. It is how you decide to deal with your personal situations. It is a choice of letting life happen to you or letting life happen for you.
The power of the choice, the decision and the attitude are yours. What will you do?
Keep this in mind, there is a high correlation between people who think they are blessed and people who approach life with a "cup half full" attitude. It makes a difference.
And, it is not just positive thinking although that certainly never hurts.
Remember what Zig Ziglar taught, "Positive thinking won't help you do anything in life. But, it will help you do everything better than negative thinking will."
Are you blessed or are you cursed?
Great post, Sean. I have experienced setbacks in recent times and find myself in a place that I would never have asked to be but is just simply perfect for me. I feel very blessed to be where I am. It is a hard place but a good place.
ReplyDeleteDavid, you are not alone. Everyone experiences setbacks. Decide to take action and push through. What you will become is more than what you are today...
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